
I feel so grateful to have been able to contribute, albeit in a small way, to this production of Brundibar, and I've come away with lots to think about.
First, I never stop being amazed at the power of the arts to speak to our souls - to get us to feel as well as know about a thing. Teachers do the important job of teaching our kids about the facts of the Holocaust, and an opera like Brundibar allows us to experience powerful feelings. I like that the extended presentation of Brundibar is more evocative than explicitly instructive because it really allows the audience to feel rather than think. I think the marriage of fact and feeling is so important for everyone, but especially for children who don't have a fully developed capacity for compassion and empathy.
Compassion and coming to the aid of others are important themes in Brundibar. This opened up a great opportunity for me to talk about these things with Connor, and we had plenty of time on our drives in and out of the city. We talked about how lucky we are to have been born in this time and place in the world, to be healthy, have our family, and be able to meet our basic needs. We talked about how many people around the world and in this country don't have that ability. After a couple of weeks of these car chats, we were waiting to get onto 76, and Connor was complaining about the dinner that I'd packed for him. He hadn't eaten it, but instead ate vending machine fare. I got really aggravated with his complaining, and I pointed out a homeless man that was walking back and forth on the median carrying a sign, "Maybe I should give your sandwich and snack to him," I snapped. "You know mom, you really should," Connor answered quietly. Now, normally - I'm ashamed to admit- I am terribly cynical and judgemental about these kinds of situations, but I had food that was going to go uneaten, it was a very cold night, and my son was actually wanting to act on what we had been talking about for weeks, so I thought I should put my money where my mouth is (so to speak). I wasn't brave enough to hand the man the food. I sealed it up in a gallon zip lock baggie that I had in Connor's lunch box, and tossed it out the car window onto the median. We watched as the man walked up and down the median, and then finally found the food. I hope it truly was a help to him. I think it was important for Connor and for me to stop talking about helping and giving back, and actually do something - even something so small. That experience reaffirmed to me how important it is for our kids to see us being compassionate and empathetic to the people around us, and to see us taking action to give back to the world by using whatever talents or passions we possess.
Franz Krasa wrote Brundibar as a short piece to perform in orphanages in order to bring some hope into the childrens' lives, and now Karen has used her musical skill and gifts to continue bringing Krasa's message to children, and to create a memorial to the brave children of Thereseinstadt and all over the world who were denied the chance to grow up and contribute their gifts. Karen's hard work and dedication to bringing this message to the public really impressed me. On a personal level, I can't thank her enough for the wonderful and gentle way that she worked with Connor and myself. She had a lovely way of seeing the positive side of some of Connor's more challenging behaviors, and found a way to bring out Connor's talents, so that he could make a really positive contribution to Brundibar. He felt such a great sense of accomplishment. Karen's patience and compassion for Connor helped me to remember that we need to be tender with our kids, and focus as much as possible on the positive. It helped me to remember that creating a peaceful world really does begin in our own home.
Last, I really appreciated the saying of the childrens' names. The idea of honoring someone by speaking of them often and by name is so powerful. Connor's name was Frantisek Steif. I don't think that I will ever forget that name. Now when I think of loved ones that we have lost, I will also think of Frantisek.
To all the children and parents who participated in Brundibar, it was so wonderful meeting you all!!
See you all soon,
Deanna Gabe